15 Things You Are Doing (Without Even Realizing) That Turn Him Off

Men and women are completely different creatures, and it is a miracle that we can even coexist peacefully (and sometimes, not so peacefully). Most of the time, it's pretty hard to understand each other. When you are in a healthy relationship, you care a lot about the other person's feelings. And sometimes, you feel that some things are just better left unsaid. This is especially true for men. A majority of the time, they will just keep their mouth shut to avoid hurting your feelings or causing a rift in the relationship. Men are a lot less likely to express how they feel, so you could be doing things that are turning him off without even realizing it! There are some things that aren't so obvious, though. I am here to save the day and open your eyes to some of them. Here are 15 things you are doing that are probably turning him right off!

15 Talking Sh*t About Everyone In Your Life

Sure, every girl needs a good venting session every once in a while. We have a really hard time bottling in our emotions and we are very expressive beings. Talking negatively about the people in your life once in a while is okay, but if you are trashing every single person in your life constantly, your boyfriend is not going to be happy about it. This brings up serious questions about your character, and he might become very resentful of your never- ending need to gossip. He might even begin to suspect that you are trashing him behind his back, even though you would never think of doing such a thing. No one likes someone that is fake. Sorry, but if you are talking endless amounts of sh*t about the people that you claim to love or care about, you are fake AF! Either cut them out of your life or cut it out!

14 Letting Yourself Go

I am a very firm believer in maintaining your appearance when you are in a relationship. You don't have to agree with me, but the truth is that no guy will enjoy the fact that when he started dating you, you took care of yourself but now, you're wearing sweatpants every single day. I see so many of my girlfriends taking this route and I find it to be tragic. Men are and always will be visual creatives and they won't enjoy the fact that you haven't brushed your hair in a week. Call me old fashioned, but I will never let myself go just because I am locked down in a relationship. Someone actually said to me that they no longer care what they look like because they're married. I'm sorry, that is a bunch of BS! Although your man should love you while you are bare-faced with no makeup on, it doesn't mean that you have free reign to become a blob. Sorry not sorry!

13 Talking About Your Bathroom Habits

It's not necessary to let your boyfriend know the gross details about your business in the bathroom. Some things are just meant to be kept private in a relationship! Yes, it's true, everyone poops, but dishing out graphic facts about how, when, why, and what it looked like CONSTANTLY is just a no-no in my opinion. When you get into a serious relationship, you're going to get super comfortable with that person, and if you feel this comfortable with them, then more power to you. But is it really necessary?! You should maintain some shred of dignity and class, for crying out loud! I know someone who does this and I see her boyfriend cringe every time, and I'd be cringing, too. Enough is enough already. Honestly, no one wants to hear about that sh$t. No pun intended!

12 Your Incessant Need To Text Him

Please, for God's sake, stop worrying about his texting habits. If you two are living together and you trust him, do you really care if he answered your text an hour later? You know that he will be coming home to you anyway! You don't need to constantly be in touch when he is trying to have a Saturday with the boys. He needs his Saturdays with the boys. Without that, he will resent the fact that you need constant attention from him. That goes for when you're married as well. Let him be. Just because you locked him down doesn't mean that you have to become a weight that he always has to carry around! Give him some space and the opportunity to spend some quality time with someone other than you. Men hate feeling trapped more than ANYTHING. That's exactly when they're going to rebel and try to break out of the relationship, and that is the last thing that you want to happen!

11 Your Eagerness To Please

This is especially true when you two are just starting to date. If you are dressing up in lingerie while cooking dinner for him on the third date, he will see you as just a tiny bit desperate. Men are simple beings, and he will feel special if you just throw some popcorn in the microwave for him. You really don't need to go overboard in order to make him happy. These are creatures that enjoy watching football for hours on end with their friends with beer and be happy as a clam. Do you seriously think that he won't find it extremely bizarre if you make him a three-course meal when you barely know each other? He may love it, he may eat the food and then make you happy after… but he will be sure to run the other way when all is said and done!

10 Your Half Naked Instagram Posts

A man most likely will not want to wife someone up who has pictures on their Instagram of them in a thong leaning on a bathroom sink. If you aren't an Instagram model and you're doing this solely for the likes and attention, no man is going to take you seriously. He may call it hot, he may want to sleep with you, but if you are looking for a boyfriend, you will not find one by doing this! Don't believe me? Look at any of these girls and you will find that 99 percent of them aren't in long-term relationships. Yes, I'm a firm believer in women's rights and your right to do whatever you please with your body. However, I believe that when you strip naked on Instagram for nothing but reassurance, it's actually perpetuating the cycle of the objectification of women. You are saying to the world that your body is all you have to offer.You want to know what a man finds truly sexy? Drive. Ambition. Motivation. Having a good heart. Being a good person.

9 Your Social Media Obsession

The jury is out: we are all addicted to social media to some degree! But men despise a girl who is obsessed with Facebook or Instagram. The last thing he wants to do is help you pick out a filter or the 2,000 selfies you have stored on your phone. Men tend to not be as attached to their phone as women. They can go without it for hours at a time. If you go out, you will see that the men are barely using their phones. I notice it all of the time! It's probably why I know not to obsess over whether a man is texting me back right away or not. They are horrible multitaskers. That's a fact! Imagine their horror when all you are doing is obsessing over your social media accounts 24/7. They don't understand it. They will start to think that Facebook and Snapchat are more important than them. Put the phone down, girlfriend! You can wait to post those cute pictures from your girls' trip. Enjoy the moment with him. If ALL you do is go through your feed while you two are together, either you are bored with the relationship or you are being extremely selfish. Just my opinion!

8 Your Habit Of Fishing For Compliments

Newsflash: if he is into you, he finds you attractive! Do you really need him to tell you how beautiful you are every five seconds? While everyone enjoys validation from their loved one, there is such a thing as overkill. A woman who needs constant reassurance is an insecure woman. Insecurity is probably the biggest turn-off for a man, but you already know that. You also should know and believe him when he says how beautiful he thinks you are. If you are constantly asking, it is like you don't trust him the first time… or the fifth. When you force his hand, it won't even feel like a compliment to him. It will feel like a chore. If he wants to tell you how beautiful you are, amazing! Just let him do it on his own. In fact, if he doesn't do it on his own, he is a jerk. Not for nothing: if you are not hearing that from your man, get rid of him!

7 Jumping To Conclusions

Women do this every single day and it is the male species' worst nightmare! When you don't give him a chance to explain himself, you have a scenario in your head of what already happened with the when, why, and where. Not only is that a little cray cray, it is childish! Females love doing this. In your mind, you're fixating on that girl who appeared on his Snapchat for five seconds, and he's totally sleeping with her behind your back. Did he start following a new girl on Instagram? You jump to the conclusion that they're dating! What occurs in the female mind is absolute madness. Here's the truth: you don't know until you ask, and then you take it from there! Never assume anything. If he is a good man, you have no reason to not give him the benefit of the doubt. He deserves more. Would you like it if roles were reversed? Think about that!

6 Being TOO nice

Why Men Love B*tches is my all-time favorite book, and if you don't have a copy, go pick it up immediately! The author believes that men hate nothing more than the overly nice girl. You know, the girl who lets herself get stepped all over in order to please her man. You may think that you are doing it for the good of your relationship when all you're really doing is sabotaging it. Being a doormat is a sure-fire way for your man to lose respect for you! When a man loses respect, he loses interest. There is nothing hotter to a man than a woman that can hold her own in the relationship. A woman who knows her worth. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you stop loving yourself in the process. I understand that you want to do everything in your power to keep him happy, but nothing will make him happier than you behaving like you know how valuable you really are.

5 Not Having Your Own Life

It's no secret that being needy is a huge turn-off to men, but have you ever thought that you sacrificing anything, everything, and anyone for him would be one, too? Just because you are in love with him doesn't mean that you have to get rid of everything else in your life! Don't be that girl who ditches all of their friends for a guy or stops doing her favorite hobbies and activities just to be with him. Men sense that you are making them their one and only priority and this can be the beginning of a very unhealthy, co-dependent relationship. You now rely on him to be your friend, your confidant, your entertainment, and your self-worth. This is too much for any man to handle. You don't have to make them your moon and stars. They are not the center of your universe. Any kind of worship and sacrifice like this is not how you keep a man. You keep a man by being yourself. He fell in love with the person you were before you met him. There is no need to drop everything for him!

4 Being Cold To His Family

We get it: you find his sister incredibly obnoxious. You think that his mom calls him way more than a grown man needs to be called. But if his family is important to him, why shouldn't you make them a priority?! I don't mean just showing up for family functions and being polite, I mean truly trying to get to know them! For all you know, they may be your family one day, and who doesn't want mom on their side?! She can be a very strong ally. So, reach out to his sister for a manicure or grab lunch with his parents. You might even end up liking them more than you thought you could! If you are standoffish to his family members, they will sense it and so will he. No one likes a family members girlfriend who thinks she is too good to bond with them. If you are just intimidated, get over it. Everyone appreciates someone who makes the effort to sincerely get to know them.

3 Your Emasculating Comments

No man wants to feel like their manhood is being taken away from them. Most men strive to be the most masculine and powerful that they can be. They love feeling like they can protect you and take care of you no matter what is thrown their way. Have you ever noticed how much he loves fixing things for you or coming to rescue you when you are in need?! Those qualities are probably what drew him to you in the first place. So why would you want to take that away from him? More than likely, you are not doing it on purpose… but the littlest things can make him feel like you are emasculating him. Anything from poking fun at his salary or downplaying what he has achieved in life are just a few examples. Not only are comments like this demeaning, they are hurtful! It doesn't matter if you are joking or not. Don't do it, babe!

2 Acting One Way With Him And Another With Other People

Remember when I said that a man hates someone who is fake? This is in the same area. Men notice when you put on a show for other people versus how you act when you two are alone. He loves you for who you are so he can't understand for the life of him why you would pretend to be something that you're not when you're in front of an audience. Wouldn't you be turned off if he did the same thing! Being two-faced ain't cute, sweetheart. It's not cute to a man or not to anyone. This may seem harmless to you, but he definitely notices it. Eventually, he will grow tired of your charades. Although we all put on a front sometimes for certain people, if you are doing it with everyone that comes your way, that is something that he will definitely recognize.

1 Your Lack Of Ambition

In 2017, there are more women CEOS than ever before. We had our first female Presidential candidate last year! The sky is the limit, so why wouldn't you have an amazing career and maximize all of that potential that you possess? Although it's not obvious, your man may not like that you have no real life plan or goals that you want to accomplish. This is not about how much you earn, this is about you making something of yourself. Your man wants to be proud of you and everything that you have done in your life. No one wants to date a couch potato! The days of the woman staying at home are long gone and to most men, it's actually a turn-off. Why would he date someone who just wants to do nothing with her life when he can be with someone who has an endless number of things that she wants to do and achieve in her life? He would never choose the first. Sorry!