Drop It 16 Things He'll Never Notice

At times, it can seem like men and women are entirely different species. They have different priorities, different ways of responding to situations, and just different ways of seeing the world in general. That can be the cause of a lot of strife because, well, your partner might legitimately not have noticed something that you thought was super important, and vice versa. Women often get frustrated with this most often because guys just don't seem to pick up on the things that we think they should.

Now, you definitely don't need to put up with an inattentive guy who totally ignores you and your needs - you deserve to be treated like the queen you are. However, there are certain situations where you just might need to stop freaking out and learn to drop the issue, because he just will never notice unless you point it out. Some of the things that guys are oblivious to are smaller things that you can just rely on your girlfriends to notice, and some are things that your self-esteem could benefit from dropping - after all, we're our own worst critics.

Here are 16 things that you should probably just drop because he really will just never notice.

16 That you refreshed your candle stock and are burning vanilla snowflake instead of vanilla cupcake

Listen, candles are fantastic, and there's a reason that women love them so much. The scents are amazing, the gentle flickering light is soothing, and even the whole ritual of lighting a candle before you get into the bathtub or head to the couch with a good book is soothing. Women can easily spend a chunk of time sniffing different scents at the store to determine which ones they want to take home, and delight in seeing how well the scent diffuses across their space when they're at home. Guys will just never care about candles that much. Perhaps you've been burning Vanilla Cupcake all summer and decided to switch to the more festive Vanilla Snowflake as winter approaches. He won't be able to tell there's a hint of pine scent in your home now. He'll just know it smells great, as always.

15 That you're going make-up free

This one is really dependent on what type of woman you are, because there are some confident ladies who just never really wear make-up, or wear such minimal make-up that you can't really tell the difference when they're bare-faced. However, the majority of women do turn to make-up to present a polished face to the world, and love playing around with different products. There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting a boost of self-confidence courtesy of your make-up. It's never going to be something that your guy really notices, though. Sure, he may see if you rock a vibrant purple shadow look, but in general, he can't tell that you swapped out your liquid liner. He just looks at your face as a whole package, and you look just as gorgeous to him without make-up.

14 Your cellulite (he's just grateful to get a glimpse of those curves!)

Again, we'll repeat - women truly are their own worst critics. While there may be some incredibly body-confident women out there who flaunt their curves without a second thought, the majority of women are more than happy to pick apart their bodies. You may live in fear of letting your guy see you in a bikini or short shorts because you worry he'll spot your cellulite and all of a sudden think you're hideous, because it's something you can't stop staring at when you see yourself in a mirror. News flash - he literally will never notice. He's too busy taking in all your fabulous curves to get hung up on a few little dimples and bumps here and there, so maybe the better approach is to try to see yourself through his eyes!

13 That you cut your hair (unless you chopped off 10+ inches)

It's not that he doesn't care when you change up your look - it's just that, unless a guy is a hairdresser, he won't be able to tell that you've chopped off half an inch of length and added a bit of soft layering to your locks. He won't be able to tell if your stylist decided to go with the razor for certain strands, or thin out some of the bulk in other places. The only time your guy will notice a hair-cut is if you go from mermaid-like waist-length locks to a bob or pixie cut, or suddenly cut blunt bangs - something super dramatic. Otherwise, if you're looking for an opinion on your new haircut, your girlfriends might be a better resource because they'll likely be able to pinpoint exactly what you got done and be able to assure you it looks so fabulous.

12 That you gained 2.4 pounds (again - he's just grateful to get access to that body)

This is the same issue as the cellulite one, and this is one of the areas where men and women differ the most. Sure, there may be some jerks out there who criticize a woman's weight. However, on the whole, your guy looks at your body as a whole package - he loves every bit of it, even the wobbly parts that you're not so fond of. He's not there to pick apart every square inch of your body - that's something you do. So even if you feel like that 2.4 pounds you gained over the past month because you indulged far too frequently is insanely noticeable, trust us - it's not, and he will never notice it, even when you point it out. He's just happy to get a chance to get close to those curves!

11 Whether your brows are done

Listen, when it comes to brows, unless you're rocking a straight up unibrow, guys just don't have a clue (that is, unless you're dating a make-up artist or cosmetician). They don't understand the difference between pencil and powder, they don't get the nerve-wracking choice between taupe and light brown, they don't understand why it takes so long to shape them and what 'shaping' them even entails. There are many women out there who feel a little bit naked if their brows aren't done, as if their face isn't quite finished, but to be honest, your guy will literally never be able to tell. Even if you notices that something looks slightly different about you, because you normally rock a very bold brow, he'll never in a million years be able to point to your brows and say they're the culprit.

10 Whether you did your hair, or just let it air dry

Okay, if you roll up with hair that looks insanely greasy or has huge, visible knots in it, your guy will notice. However, for the most part, if your hair is simply not 'done' to your standards, he will neither notice nor care. If you ran out of time to straighten or curl your hair and are just rocking your natural slightly wavy, tousled texture, he probably won't see the difference - in fact, he might even think the more casual look is cute on you. We see ourselves every single day, so it's easy to notice when something is different, but he's just not focusing on every little part of your appearance like you are - he's just noticing the beautiful face framed by all that hair, how good your hair smells, etc.

9 If you're rocking designer duds or inexpensive clothes

Okay, again - if your guy is in the fashion industry and knows when every new designer's collection is out and what the key pieces of the season are, he may notice your clothing. However, for the average guy, his attention to your outfit is a lot more basic - he's just looking at whether you look clean and presentable and confident. Whether you prefer jeans and t-shirts or exclusively dresses with a vintage vibe, as long as you're rocking it, he won't notice how much it cost. If you're a label queen who only shops for designer duds, hey, that's fine. If you're a thrift store junkie who lives for building her wardrobe with unique finds, that's fine as well. He won't notice either way - he'll just notice how your curves look in your outfit.

8 That you have a fresh mani-pedi

For many women, whether they go to a salon or DIY it at home, mani pedis are a great addition to any self-care routine. I mean, who doesn't feel a little pampered when they're getting their hands attended to, having fun picking out a new polish colour and making sure everything looks fabulous. Women notice when your nails are on point, and when you swapped out your shade of choice for the season. They'll be able to tell if you're rocking the 'it' shade of the season. Guys just won't. They'll notice if your nails look absolutely wrecked, and they may notice if you're rocking long talons that scratch them constantly, but he won't notice if you went from Summer Seaside to Park After Dark or whatever your shade of choice is.

7 That you have a new purse all your BFFs can't stop gushing about

Again, this is like most things that have to do with fashion or beauty - guys just aren't really in the loop and don't notice the little things. For them, a purse is just that thing that you tote all your things around in. He may notice if you switch from a black tote to a vibrant red bag, but he certainly won't be able to spot that you've snagged the new it bag of the season, or that you finally treated yourself to that designer bag you've been eyeing for months on end. Most women will be able to gush over your bag and dissect exactly why it's so fabulous, but guys just don't notice. I mean, if he buys you a new bag, he may notice when you start using his gift and feel a little burst of pride, but that's about it.

6 Whether you shaved yesterday or the day before

Honestly - we're not sure why women are self-conscious about so many parts of their body, because chances are, guys just won't notice. And, even if they did, they wouldn't judge you nearly as harshly as you judge yourself, but that's an entirely different issue! So, grooming. Thanks to the ideal grooming type put forward by North American society - no hair anywhere but on the top of your head - many women feel embarrassed if they forgot to shave their legs for a few days, and worry that their guy will immediately be able to notice and be absolutely repulsed by that stubble. Listen, unless you haven't shaved for years, he probably won't even notice - and if something as minor as a little body hair freaks him out, he's not the right guy for you.

5 Anything to do with highlights

You got a few strands of subtle colour woven throughout your hair and feel like you're channeling your inner Queen Bey on stage, so you assume that he'll immediately be able to tell as well - trust us, he won't. Or, you snagged the new highlighter that all the beauty gurus have been raving about, and feel like your cheekbones are popping like they've never popped before and you're emitting a total glow - sorry, he probably still won't notice. Guys just rarely pick up on all those incredibly subtle changes that women make, even if we think that they're super obvious, so if you're looking for someone to admire your new highlights, your girlfriends may be the better choice. Your guy will tell you you look nice, sure, but he won't be able to pinpoint what you've changed.

4 Any new decor item you got

If your guy is an interior designer who spends every day working on interiors, then yes, he should absolutely be able to notice if you revamped your apartment a little bit. However, if your guy is an average guy, waiting for him to notice that you swapped out your coasters or got a few new throw pillows is going to be a torturous endeavour because he just will never notice. It's not that he thinks you have bad taste, and if you point out the item to him he'll probably agree that it looks great. He just isn't as tuned in to decor as the average woman is, so it doesn't even register for him, and to be honest, he likely won't remember what the previous coasters or throw blankets looked like.

3 That you are secretly, silently angry and just not saying anything (he's not a mind reader!)

Listen, this advice has been put forward ad nauseum, but it's the truth - men are not mind readers, so if you have something on your mind you absolutely need to communicate it. If he's watching the big game and you're silently seething next to him, but not letting on that you're actually angry, well… he'll probably just think that you're sitting on the couch enjoying the game with him. If you do not voice a single word of your feelings he just won't be able to tell that anything is wrong. So, if you're waiting for your guy to pick up on your subtle cues, you'll be waiting a long time - it's a way more effective use of everyone's time to just tell him what's bothering you so that you can deal with it.

2 That you're 'bloated'

Women bloat - it's just a reality. Maybe it's a certain time of the month for you and you're retaining water, or maybe you just had a few salty meals and aren't really feeling your best. And if you're bloated, you likely feel as though you look about seven months pregnant and everyone around you can tell how insanely bloated you are and you just don't even want to leave your house. We hate to break it to you, but he likely will never notice. Your visible bloat is entirely in your head - sure, your stomach may not look the same as it always does, but he's not there to judge and analyze every part of your body and how it may change day to day. He's just there to appreciate you.

1 Exactly what you ate and how much

Many women get hung up on food choices, particularly during a new relationship. After all, will he think you're a pig if you eat a burger and fries while he opts for a salad? Will he notice that you've eaten more of the shared appetizer than he has, and will he judge you for it? The answer to all of the above is no. He won't notice. The one thing that many guys notice and get annoyed by is if a woman orders something small for herself and then tries to cutely steal a bunch of his meal. Most guys are more than happy to get you whatever you want to order, and love a woman who can enjoy and appreciate good food, so stop getting hung up on it and ordering the garden salad that you don't even want to eat.

via: cosmopolitan.com, madamenoire.com