8 Signs He's Leading You On and 8 He Really Loves You

If you are like me, then you often find yourself in a situation where you can't tell if they guy you're crazy about is crazy about you just the same. If he has good intentions for you, if he wants to be with you long term, and if he loves you for who you are. I get it, guys can be confusing at times. But, when it comes down to it, there's a time where you know what a guy wants from you based on his actions not his words. You can tell the difference between a guy who's leading you and a guy who really loves you by his level of investment.

Does he meet you where you at? Does he make you a priority in his life consistently? Does he open-up to you because he wants you to know the real him? These are some questions you can ask yourself to help you see reality for what it is, instead of what you wish it was. And here are some definite signs that will help you determine if he's really loves you or he's just leading you on. Good luck, Girl!

16 He Really Loves You: You're A Priority In His Life

When a guy loves you, he places you at the top of his list of the things that matter in his life. You won't second guess how he feels about you and you won't doubt his intentions for you. He shows-up to everything because he's always there for you. The things that matter to you are also the things that matter to him. You know that you're one of the people he cares a lot about in his life because there's no way around it. He treats you with the same love and respect he treats his family. He doesn't make you feel that you come second or last, he makes you feel like you come first because you do. He consults you about the decisions he makes and he takes your goals in life into consideration. When he does something, he does it because it's what is best for the both of, and for your relationship.

15 He's Leading You On: He Feels Bad All Of The Time

When a guy is leading you on, he is always apologetic because deep down, he knows that he's doing you wrong. Guys decide whether they want you to be their partner or not in the initial stages. And that's some guys end-up leading the other person on because they knew from the start that they were not going to work, that they weren't the partner they wanted. When he's leading you on, you feel that he's not okay. He seems unhappy and emotionally distant. He feels bad that he can't give you what you want, he feels bad that you're hurting, and he feels bad that he's the bad guy in the situation. Leading you on doesn't give him a good feeling about the man he is and it doesn't make him respect himself much either. He tells you that he's an asshole and that he doesn't deserve you. He sees that you are a better person that he is instead of seeing you as his equal.

14 He Really Loves You: You've Seen His Dark Side

When a guy loves you, he lets you see all of him. He chooses his fear of losing you forever over his fear of being seen. He lets you love him for his flaws, imperfections and the broken pieces. He lets you see him vulnerable especially in his most insecure moments. He opens-up to you about his fears, weaknesses and childhood wounds. He tells you about the time he almost lost hope in living. He tells you how the loss of someone who meant the world to him changed him. He doesn't shy away from crying in-front of you because he knows that you won't judge him. When a guy loves you, he allows you to know his bad tendencies. He talks to you about how he deals with pain, he tells you how he behaves when he's stressed, he shares with you the things he does when he's scared.

13 He's Leading You On: He's A Procrastinator

When a guy is leading you on, he always postpones everything. He rarely makes plans with you. And if he does, he cancels on you. He says that he would rather go on vacation with you next year instead of this one. He tells you that he wants to meet your parents when the timing is right. He tells you that he'll introduce you to his when he's ready. He introduces you to his friends as a good friend of his and not as a love interest or an almost girlfriend. If he's leading you on while you're dating but not living together, he'll tell you that you can move in together when his life is in a good place. If he's leading you on while you're engaged, he'll tell you that he likes the way things are now and he doesn't want it to change. If he's leading you on while you're married, he doesn't take your marriage seriously and he doesn't behave like he's your teammate, he behaves like he's your roommate instead.

12 He Really Loves You: You Want The Same Things

When a guy loves you, he wants the same things you want. He still wants the things he wants as his own person, but he wants the things that you want because he understands that successful relationships are about teamwork not just about the individual. You both want to start a family but perhaps, not at the same time. He gives you time to get where you need to be just like you would for him. When a guy loves you, he sees life in an equivalent way that see it. You have the same values, period. You're honest, open-minded, loving, kind. When a guy loves you, he wants you to be the best version of yourself even if it means that he must make some sacrifices. He holds you close but he knows when he needs to set you free to follow your dreams because he knows you'll come back, because he understands that love is a balance between holding on and letting go.

11 He's Leading You On: He Makes A Lot Of Excuses

When a guy is leading you on, he comes up with the most convincing excuses ever. He tells you he hasn't called you back in three days because he was super busy at work. He sleeps with you but he tells you he can't date you right now because things in his life are quite messy at the moment. He says that he couldn't go to the event that meant so much to you because he was out of town. He explains that he couldn't show-up when you needed him the most because he had to take care of some family business. He says that he can't marry you because he doesn't want to be married because his parents always fought. Or, he tells you that he doesn't want to marry more than once and that's why he's taking his time finding the right person for him. He makes timing an excuse, he makes your differences an excuse, he makes distance an excuse.

10 He Really Loves You: He Forgives You When You Mess-Up

When a guy loves you, he forgives you. He understands that you are human and that you have your moments, too. He doesn't hold it against you, he doesn't make you feel bad about it and he doesn't use it as an excuse to love you less. He doesn't react when you're angry because he knows that it's not the healthy way of dealing with conflict. When a guy loves you, he calls you out on your shortcomings. He does not internalize his disappointment instead, he addresses it with you respectfully and maturely. He holds his standards high but he knows that we all make mistakes sometimes. He turns every argument into a learning experience. He always makes the best out of each situation and allows hardship in your relationship to bring you closer and make you a stronger couple. When a guy loves you, he loves you when you are at your best and when you are at your worst.

9 He's Leading You On: He Plays Hot and Cold

When a guy is leading you on, he gives you mixed signals. One day he's crazy about you and you're the woman of his dreams. The next day, he makes you feel like you're the source of his misery. There's no in between with him, it's either so amazing or so terrible. When a guy is leading you on, he gives you assurance that he you'll be together but at the same time, he makes you feel insecure about the connection you have. He pushes you away because he wants space and wants to explore his options elsewhere. He also pulls you closer than he's let anyone before. He opens-up to you, but he then disappears, and you don't hear from him. When a guy is leading you on, you feel that he's using you and it weighs on your heart. You feel like he only talks to you when he's lonely, in need for attention or basically wants you to do something for him.

8 He's Leading You On: You Have Trust Issues

When a guy is leading you on, you often question his character and his intentions for you. He's not completely honest with you or he doesn't totally let you go. So, you feel like as if he's hiding something from you and that he is not 100% transparent like he says he is. For the most part, you believe him but you feel like you can't trust his words simply because you know better not to. You question his character because his actions lack value. He tells you he likes you but he talks to other people. He tells you he loves you but he won't commit to you. He tells you that you're the one for him yet he doesn't make you feel like you are. And none of it makes sense to you. When he's leading you on, you don't know where you stand in his life and that alone makes you wonder if you're in the right relationship.

7 He Really Loves You: He's Your Biggest Fan

When a guy loves you, he's your best friend. He believes in you. He knows that you are capable of anything that you set your mind to. He knows that you are powerful, strong and beautiful. He loves you for the things that make you, you. He loves you for your own kind of person and he doesn't ever want you to change. When a guy loves you, he supports you in everything that you do. He reminds you of your worth, your talent and your abilities when you tend to forget. He stands-up for you when someone is trying to put you down. He takes care of you when you're tired and he appreciates how hard you work. He's the one who cheers you-up when you lose and he's the one who cheers for you when you win. When a man loves you, he celebrates your loss and success with you because he knows that love is about gain and loss.

6 He's Leading You On: He Asks You To Wait For Him

When a guy is leading you on, he asks you to wait for him. He doesn't do anything to be with you, but he expects you to wait for him until he decides that he can be with you. He tells you that he's not talking to or sleeping with someone, but he doesn't tell you that he is when things change for him. He gives you the impression that once things fall into place, he'll give you all the things you need from him and that you'll be happy, that it will be worth the wait. When a guy is leading you on, he wastes your time more than he makes it memorable. He keeps you waiting for him to get together for months if not years. Time passes by while you're still stuck on the same old love story. You wait for him but nothing actually changes because he is still the same.

5 He Really Loves You: You're Proud To Call Him Your Man

When a guy loves you, he makes you proud. He makes you proud to be his partner because you admire the man he is. You are beyond grateful that you have met someone with his values because he's a good man. He treats you and everyone else around him well. He's there when his family and friends need him because he's reliable. People at work love him because he's great to work with. He's a positive person and someone who loves life. When a guy loves you, he makes it his mission to be a better man for you. His love for you inspires him to be better, to always grow and never stop learning. He pushes himself out of his comfort zone and he challenges himself. He doesn't give-up when things get tough and he doesn't run away from tough times. Instead, he rises-up to the occasion because the only thing he wants is to make you proud for the rest of your life.

4 He's Leading You On: He's Straight-Up Selfish

When a guy is leading you on, he only cares about himself. He doesn't care about your feelings or well-being. He doesn't care that his words cut deep, he doesn't care that his actions are ruining your relationship. When he's leading you on, he does what's of his best interest. He doesn't think of you when he's making decisions. He doesn't consider what you want, he only thinks about his needs. He tells you he loves you even if he doesn't feel it or mean it because he doesn't care about the aftermath, he lives for the moment. He gives you empty promises that he doesn't intend to keep because he wants to make you happy for now not for a lifetime. He always puts himself ahead of you and your relationship because he only sees himself. He's stingy with his pocket, he's stingy with his heart, and he's stingy with his feelings.

3 He Really Loves You: He Tells What You Mean To Him

When a guy loves you, he tells you he loves you. He doesn't hint it, he doesn't say it indirectly, and he doesn't expect you to figure it out on your own. He tells you the words: “I love you.” He tells you what you really mean to him. He opens-up about the way he feels for you. He tells you that you're the one for him and he explains to you why. When a guy loves you, you know exactly how he feels because he tells you every single day. He tells you that he misses you and he tells you what he misses about you. When he calls to hear your voice or to check-up on you, he's honest about and doesn't make-up excuses instead. He tells you that you make him happy. He tells you that with you, he found the love he's been searching for and that you made him believe again. He tells you that you complete him because without you, he's just not the same.

2 He's Leading You On: You're A Train Wreck

When a guy is leading you on, he makes you into an emotional mess. You become emotionally instable because of all the signs above. You're confused all the time and you don't understand him at all. You feel like you're in two places at the same time. The connection you share becomes toxic because its effect on you is not good; it's negative, energy consuming and emotionally abusive. Your heart loves him but your mind doesn't because it knows that he's not the right guy for you. And that leaves you hanging more than ever. When a guy is leading you on, he makes you into a girl you can barely recognize. You become insecure about yourself because his lack of choosing you makes you believe that there's something wrong about you, that you're not pretty enough, that you're not smart enough, that you'll never be good enough for him. When he's leading you on, he makes you believe it's you not him.

1 He Really Loves You: He Shows You He Loves You Every Day

When a guy loves you, he loves you. Yes, it's that simple. He shows you in his actions that you mean the world to him. He's affectionate with you: he kisses you and hugs you every day. He speaks your love language fluently. He loves you in the way you want, and the way you need. He gets all cheesy for you and he gets all romantic for you. He comes to you after a long day at work like you're his favorite place to be, because you are. He stays in when you are sick instead of going out with the guys. He takes care of your family like they are his own. He spends time with them occasionally and holidays. He takes you to your favorite place all the time. He spoils you because he just loves you so much and he wants to make you happy for as long as he lives.