Guys Reveal 15 Things That Make Them Swipe Right Every Time
An interesting phenomenon is happening to our generation. Due to the rise of dating apps, we seem to have a difficult time actually approaching each other in person in social context. What's a single gal to do?
It's frustrating but if you're not on at least once dating app then you're making single life even more difficult for yourself. Playing the Tinder game is just step one in the long dating process, but it all starts with a killer profile. However, a gold-standard profile doesn't necessarily mean only super hot selfies or cute bikini pics. Boys know when they are being baited and hooked and they confess that there are some types of profiles that are just better at piquing interest than others.
Just like anything in life, there are some general principles and tips to follow if you want your profile to make a great virtual first impression - and more importantly, to function as a buffer and smooth out actual IRL interactions down the line. If your Tinder game is struggling a bit, or you think you can step it up, even more, follow these 15 pieces of advice straight from the source to elevate your profile to a whole new level.
15 First photo showing expressive and open body language
Body language is everything. A common piece of wisdom we often hear is that most human communication is done non-verbally, so watch your body. When it comes to seeking more right swipes this is a valuable piece of insight. Always select a first picture that shows open and expressive body language. You only get one shot with the first picture, it's like the cover of your book, so select it wisely. They say that people make a snap judgment of your cover within milliseconds of meeting you, and in the digital world, first impressions count just a much. Guys confess that there is something about this type of pose that just targets the primal male brain and will instantly increase the likelihood that he will swipe right. Go upload that picture, now!
14 A hint of calculated mystery to build some intrigue
A little bit of mystery goes a long way. That's should be your motto for the rest of the year. I personally love living by this, and it can apply to everything in life including your Tinder profile. Although I strongly preach the importance of demonstrating your interests and personality through your pictures, it's a balancing act, don't show too much because then there is no intrigue. There's always a sweet spot, and people who are successful at Tinder know how to find it. Guys don't only swipe right because they like what they see - it's also because they are interested in knowing more about what they don't see. In other words, he wants to get to know you better. So be sure to leave a little room for the imagination and you will be pilling up those matches in no time. Always remember the golden motto!
13 A profile that shows you're approachable and easy to talk to
A gold-level Tinder profile is always thinking ahead. A match is only step numero uno in the long dating process. Flipping through Tinder means you only barely started. But don't get discouraged! From the moment a guy lays eyes on your profile your goal is to make him feel like when and if you do match, it will be really easy for him to start a convo with you. Said in another way, that you will be very easy to approach virtually, and that you will most likely respond to him, too. This means avoiding too many pictures where you look serious or dare I say - stuck up. A good tip is to include photos where you look friendly and approachable. If you're not sure about a pic, a good idea is to run your photos by a friend, or even a stranger at a bar. It's a great way to start a conversation with a stranger; a little litmus test never hurt anyone.
12 Candid shots that show you are a genuine person
No, this doesn't mean fill your profile with those oh so popular "plandids" that are all over Instagram right now. A "plandid" is a hybrid word to describe a new photo trend - the planned candid. If it sounds like a contradiction to you - that's because it is. These are all over social media now thanks to the burst effect and other great iPhone features. People are getting really good at spotting fake candids though, and I feel like plandids now come across as even phonier and contrived than a regular old-fashioned posed pic. Sometimes a genuine candid - where you face is maybe not perfect but real - will add just the right amount of authenticity to your profile. Guys are always attracted to that down to earth and easy to approach vibe, so try to include some real candids into the mix. This will definitely pay off in the swipes department. Trust me.
11 Dynamic pictures with you and your friends
Although your profile should be all about you - and it is about you - it's important to include some photos with other people. Whether it's friends or family, showing yourself in your social circle is crucial to getting right swipes. If you only have photos of yourself it makes people unconsciously feel like their shopping for an object - a product - rather than a real flesh and blood person. But placing yourself in context with friend or family humanizes the process and little bit and makes it feel more natural to the person flipping. Bottom line, Tinder dating is the furthest thing from natural, and that's why it can be inherently uncomfortable for some. But throwing in a picture of you with friends or a group of people will always smooth out that feeling of discomfort a bit and can also be a good opportunity to throw in an ice-breaker pic.
10 A funny or intriguing conversation starter
The key to building an A+ Tinder profile is also to think ahead a little bit. The dating game is a long play and going for instant gratification will quickly lead to frustration. Don't only focus on what you think will get instant right swipes, but also what will help during the next phase. Once the matches start coming in your profile itself will function as a buffer for starting conversations. I don't know about you but I find keeping up an interesting convo with a complete stranger quite difficult, so it helps to have some kindling for the conversation fire. The trick here is to select one or two pictures that are a little bit funny or stand-out and that work well as a conversation starter. Why do you think so many people put animal shots in their profiles? Everyone loves dogs! And it's an easy topic of conversation to break the ice. Find yourself an interesting topic buffer pic and add it to the mix.
9 A profile that's free of cliches and typical catchphrases
I am so sick of flipping through Tinder and seeing pictures of dudes skydiving or extreme mountain climbing. The worse is when a bio reads something like " I love traveling, food, and wine" - WHO DOESN'T!? These types of profiles should get the instant left in my opinion. I know you don't skydive on a regular basis and we all love food! Stop the charade. On the other hand, an A+ profile always tries to stay humble. It shows just a peek into someone's interests; instead of being a full blown catalog displaying suspiciously extreme passions. People aren't products to shop for, and profiles that make guys feel like they are shopping won't get very far. At all costs, avoid saying that you like all the standard things that every red-blooded human loves because it's cliche AF. You will be left swiped in a heartbeat along with all the other people who "love food".
8 A display of genuine attitude and personality
It's difficult to convey your personality in five photos or less, but it can be done, you just have to select them wisely. It's also equally as important to try to demonstrate yourself in the most genuine way possible. For example, I once went out on a Tinder date with a guy who from his photos seemed like a really positive, upbeat, and outgoing guy. When I met him in person, he turned out to be surprisingly negative and kinda grumpy. It felt sort of like a personality catfish. Very upsetting. Although I could see why he didn't put any brooding and stern-faced pictures in his profile, he could have toned his pictures down a bit to represent his temperament better. When people flip through Tinder they form expectations of you based on your 5 photos, and if you don't live up to those expectations it's hard to make it to date 2. This is why it's always wise to manage those from the very start by trying to be as genuine as possible.
7 Pictures showing you with a real smile
Another type of body language that instantly makes you seem more friendly and approachable is a good ol' fashioned full mouth smile. But, here's the thing - we can tell when people are really faking it, so try to find yourself a nice candid photo where someone captured a moment where you look and are genuinely happy. Men confess that they love a woman with a full and beautiful smile, it has a magnetic and sexy quality to it, and they can't help but swipe right when catching a glimpse of a memorable smile. In other words, keep the ducky sour face selfie pics to a minimum and go for a wide glamorous smile shot instead. All your future matches will be proof of this classic making a good first impression tip.
6 Some diversity in all the photos you select for your profile
The Tinder hunt is grueling and men are on a mission. Tweaking your profile to quickly impress people is key, and there is one type of profile that will always get the instant next - a profile with zero diversity to it. Such as a profile with only headshots or with only selfies at the same angle. Now, think of yourself as a mini brand manager. A good brand elicits an emotional reaction in people, right? Having four or five of the same style pouty selfie back to back will not give anyone an idea of what your life is actually like or of who you are as a person, therefore, no emotional reaction and therefore - left swipe for you. The secret is to diversify your pictures in terms of the context, angles, and type. A good formula, for example, a posed but cute vacation picture, one flirty selfie, one group pic with friends and one candid shot with your dog. This is a lot more interesting to look at and will give a guy an emotional connection rather than just the same generic shot over and over. NEXT!
5 A profile that shows a realistic glimpse into your life
This one is crucial. No guy - or person - like to feel as if they are being deceived. If all your pics look like professional perfectly curated shots then you might actually get a swipe left. No one wants to be catfished. Not to mention, these types of profiles just ooze of self-absorption, which is a major turn off to a lot of guys. What I'm trying to get at here is make sure to throw in a couple pictures that show you in your natural state. Whether that's snuggled up on your couch, buried in a good book, or just with a messy bun and no makeup, guys appreciate the vulnerability it takes to show that "imperfect" side of you upfront. Especially for girls because there is a lot of pressure for us to perfect all the time. As a result, guys will be impressed and you will be much more likely to get some right swipes. Woohoo!
4 A profile that includes at least one full-body shot
Similar to the diversity rule; you have to show diversity in the types of shots of your body and face. Once again, although there is a wide range of preferences for body types out there, no one wants to be catfished. In other words, people don't want to end up investing time and energy going on a date with someone they would not find very attractive in the first place. To avoid wasting your time and his it's important to at least include one full body shot so that a guy can get a clear image of what you look like head to toe. I don't know about you but I get suspicious if a guy doesn't include one in his profile. I assume he is trying to conceal his height or something else he assumes would be off-putting to girls. A little vulnerability is sexy! And is most definitely much appreciated these days.
3 At least one picture of you dressed to the 9's
As much as being natural and vulnerable is great, nothing makes us feel good as a picture of ourselves when we're all done up. Men do appreciate this, too - as long as it's not the only thing your displaying. So, include one or two shots of you with your make up and hair done. Maybe it's a wedding picture or just one of you and your girlfriends about to go out on a Saturday night. The stereotypes are true; men appreciate a woman who knows how to dress up and pamper herself to look like a goddess. However, some women don't wear makeup ever - and that's ok too! Don't feel pressured if you're not into that. But, if your the type of girl who does like to get dolled up it's important to show that side of you as well. He will most definitely appreciate it. The matches will be proof.
2 A short but punchy bio to give him an idea of your personality
It's really annoying when you're swiping on peoples profiles and they have a great selection of pictures but then absolutely nothing in their bio. Sometimes the opposite happens, the pictures are meh, but there is something about their bio that just makes you laugh and want to swipe right. A bio can break or seal the deal in a few seconds. That said, guys, do admit that if you have even a couple words in your bio section this will always increase the likelihood of getting right swipes. Guys don't want to read a novel - neither does a girl - but they don't want to see absolutely anything either. Just a punchy sentence or two to describe yourself and what you like, throw in a few emojis because that's just good practice.
1 A profile that hints at potential common interests
Something we all look for when we are browsing through Tinder is common interests. No one wants to be stuck across a table from a stranger sipping a cocktail while mentally scrambling to find common ground. That's just plain awkward and is the kind of nightmare scenario that makes most people avoid online dating altogether. What this means for your profile is trying to demonstrate with photos what you're interested in. Whether its music, art, skiing or just plain chilling with your friends, be sure to give some hints as to some of your hobbies and interests so a guy can connect with you right away. This is always a good strategy to get those sweet right swipes. Guys are much more likely to swipe right on you if they feel like you will have things to connect over and keeping up a smooth flowing conversation won't be a total struggle.
