8 Things You Need To Do To Get His Attention And 8 Things To NEVER Do

What do you do when you like a guy? You probably have your own ideas of how to flirt and how to get a guy's attention. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don't, which is totally normal. Flirting is one of life's great mysteries. Plus you have to think about what the movies tell you to do to get a guy to like you… and what you actually want to do since you're not in a movie. It's a lot to deal with.

The problem is you're flirting the way you THINK men like to be flirted with, instead of just being yourself and going with the flow. But what do you really do? How do you get him to notice you and, most importantly, fall in love with you?

We're here to help. We've figured out what you can do to always get his attention and what he would just never in a million years want you to do. Read on to find out 8 things women need to do to get his attention and 8 things to never do. Try these out on the guy that you're crushing on and we promise that these will work perfectly!

16 You Should Always: Wear Red

Yup, red is the color that people always say you should wear when you want to get a guy's attention, and that's because this is totally the way that you want to go. What is so great about red? Why are guys so into it?

It might actually be something that is totally biological. A study done at the University of Rochester back in 2008 looked at why men are so interested in women who wear red. Here's a quote from an article on the study: "Research has shown that nonhuman male primates are particularly attracted to females displaying red. Female baboons and chimpanzees, for example, redden conspicuously when nearing ovulation." Hmmm. Makes sense. Now that you know there's some science behind it, swipe on some red lipstick or wear a cute red sweater the next time that you're hanging out with the guy of your dreams.

15 You Should Never: Laugh At Him

Sure, you want to playfully make fun of him, and that does involve some laughter (if you're doing this properly). But that doesn't mean that you should laugh at him. There's a massive difference between laughing at someone and laughing with them. You never want to be so mean that you laugh at him and actually hurt his feelings.

You might think that you would never do this, but it can be a little too easy to insult someone, especially if you're enjoying a few drinks and it's late at night and you're tired. This is even truer if you're in your usual friend group and there a lot of other people around and everyone's getting it on the joke. Just be careful that he knows that you care about him and that it's all in fun.

14 You Should Always: Try Actually Talking To Him

He can't notice you if you never say a single word to him, can he? While it may feel super scary to talk to the guy that you're crushing on, you really do have to do this. Sure, you think that you're going to ramble and sound stupid, and you're worried that he's going to think that you're a total idiot. But you really shouldn't worry about that.

Chances are, the conversation will go pretty well. If you like each other, there's this little thing called chemistry that just makes everything so much easier and better. If it doesn't go well, then at least you know that you two aren't meant to be, and you won't have to keep wondering what if. There's seriously a silver lining here. But you won't know until you talk to him. That's the first step.

13 You Should Always: Ask Him About His Life

You can get a guy to notice you if you talk about yourself all the time… if you want him to notice that you're totally into yourself and the most conceited person ever. Yeah, didn't think that's what you're going for.

It's probably a much better idea to talk to this guy and ask him things about his life. He'll be super flattered and happy that you care, and he'll definitely share some things. This is also a great way to gauge his interest if you're not sure how he feels about you. If he only gives you one-word answers and seems super bored, then he's clearly not interested (sorry but you probably already knew that). If he opens up and talks a lot, then sure, he could just be friendly, but maybe he does feel the same way about you.

12 You Should Never: Post Too Many Selfies

Oh, selfies. Guys really hate selfies. You might think that they love looking at photos of pretty girls but they honestly think that selfies are just too much and they don't get why girls need to take a million pictures of themselves all the time. Seriously, just ask any male that you know and he will tell you the same thing.

You don't want to get his attention by posting too many selfies. You might think that this is a super simple way of getting him to notice you, but he might think that you're too cocky, and that might be a major turn-off. And you don't want to do anything that might be considered a turn-off at this point. It's still early days. Just cool it with the selfies and all will be good.

11 You Should Always: Playfully Make Fun Of Him

Guys like funny girls, just like you like funny guys, so you might as well show this guy that you've got an awesome sense of humor. There's no reason to keep that under wraps and act like you're a super boring person if you're actually totally hilarious. Where's the fun in that?!

You don't want to insult this guy, of course, because that's no way to get him to notice you (in a good way, that is). But you can definitely make fun of him in a playful way. He'll enjoy the teasing and will most likely reciprocate, which will be a fun experience for both of you. It's really the best way to flirt and will prove if you have a bond or connection or not.

10 You Should Never: Like His Facebook Posts Every Time

You're going to like some of his Facebook posts. Of course you are. This is even truer if you're actually friends right now. But… you might not want to like every single post. Sure, you can like some of them, and you can definitely like the posts that seem relevant to you and your personality and your life. If you're always liking whatever he posts, even if there are pop culture references or things that you don't get, that might seem a bit strange.

Why? Because you might make it too obvious. Which is fine if you don't care about that. But you might want to just cool with the social media likes and attention since maybe you want to be more chill and subtle than that. Just a thought.

9 You Should Always: Post On Social Media… A Lot

You want to do this so he can see all your posts, of course. But you can't make it too obvious that you're posting a lot on purpose. It's an art form. It's a tricky balance. It's going to feel like a lot of work. Which is totally cool since you can do this and you're committed.

As long as you're posting interesting content that people actually want to read, like fun pop culture news articles or quizzes or something like that, you don't have to worry about being annoying. This is what social media is for, after all. People expect you to post on a regular basis and actually use your accounts. You just want him to see your posts so he can think about you all the time. It's a good plan.

8 You Should Never: Talk About Your Ex

You probably already know that your ex-boyfriend should be off-limits when you're chatting with the guy that you're crushing on. It's not the best or smartest way to get his attention. Because it will get his attention… in the worst possible way. He's going to think that you still love your ex and that you don't like him when nothing could be further from the truth. Talk about making things awkward and fast.

Would you want him to talk about his own ex all the time, especially when you two haven't even started dating? Nope. You want him to focus on you and you want to get to know each other. That's the way that it should be. Save the ex chatter for when it's clear that you're dating and you want to share all that romantic history stuff.

7 You Should Always: Be Yourself

Ugh, right?! People are always telling you to be yourself when you're dating and it can sometimes feel like the most irritating thing ever. Of course you want to be yourself. You don't want to lie or hide or anything lame like that. You want guys to like you for who you are. It wouldn't feel good if you pretended to be someone else and that was the girl that this guy was interested in. Like a cliche and cheesy romantic comedy, he would find out the truth eventually, and nothing good would happen then.

If you really want to get a guy's attention, you really have no choice but to be yourself. Sure, it can be scary to put yourself out there and admit your feelings and opinions, even about things as silly as pop culture. But just think of it as a necessary step toward figuring out if you two have chemistry.

6 You Should Never: Text Him 24/7

There's nothing wrong with texting the guy that you like. The problem comes up when you literally never stop contacting him. Yeah, you always have a lot to say and you want to keep chatting with him, and why shouldn't you? It's not like you two have to ignore each other, and that's especially true if you're in that weird in-between stage where you're almost dating but a tiny bit more than friends.

You just don't want him to get annoyed by how much you're texting him. You know that he has a job (and you have one too, of course) and that he has a life and no matter how much he wants to talk to you, he probably wants to have a bit of space, too. Just like you do. It's just a fine balance and texting too much is never a smart idea.

5 You Should Always: Talk About Your Hobbies And Interests

Your hobbies and interests are what make you the cool girl that you are. You might think that what you're into is too weird and different and that this guy would never find you attractive or think of you as girlfriend material if he knew about this stuff, but that's a crazy way to think. If he doesn't think that you're awesome, no matter what ways that you choose to spend your free time, then he's not worth it.

You might as well put all your cards on the table and admit that you're nuts for basket weaving or whatever quirky hobby you have. Hopefully not basket weaving. It's a little too weird. Just kidding. He probably has silly hobbies too and you two can bond. There's nothing better than that.

4 You Should Always: Just Ask Him Out

Why not?! Asking a guy out really does get his attention. He might have no clue that you're crushing on him and at least if you ask him out then he's going to know how you feel about him. Yeah, that means taking a big risk and admitting your romantic feelings, and you might not be thrilled about that. That might feel like too big a step and you might not be ready.

Think about it like this: wouldn't you be super sad if you missed out on the chance to get to know him better and see if you two have something special? Of course you would, right? Yeah, exactly. Remember that when you're about to chicken out. Just ask him out and see what happens. It really could be something good.

3 You Should Never: Tell Mutual Friends You Like Him

Look, you're not in junior high. If you and this guy have friends in common and you tell everyone that you like him, it might get awkward AF if it gets back to him. Because it probably will. People love to talk and they love to gossip most of all. This would be considered pretty big news… and you totally know that's true since if one of your friends liked another friend, you would be interested. It's just human nature, right?

You never want to tell your mutual friends this, so just keep that in mind. Yeah, it would absolutely get his attention, but there are so many other things that you can do and so many other ways that you can get his attention without humiliating yourself in the process. That shouldn't be part of the whole thing.

2 You Should Never: Wear Skimpy Clothes

If you wear these types of clothes because you think that's the best way to get his attention, it's going to seriously backfire. You'll look like you're trying too hard and like you're trying to seduce him or something… and that's just lame. And strange.

The right guy will never want you to wear something that you're not comfortable in. Chances are, this isn't your normal attire and this isn't what you would usually wear when hanging out with him or your mutual friend group. Just be yourself and wear the clothes that make you feel good and make you feel most like you. That's really the best approach to take here and that will make you look the most attractive. You can't go wrong with being yourself.

1 You Should Never: Flirt Too Much

There's flirting… and then there's a ton of flirting. There's no official term for it, but there should be. Because flirting too much is worse than not flirting at all.

You don't have to totally ignore him. There's just a fine line between ignoring him and over flirting. You don't want to be super obvious with the fact that you have a massive crush on him. You don't want him to think that you don't like him, either. So what's a girl to do? What's the possible solution? If you guys have a few inside jokes that mean a lot to both of you but literally make no sense to anyone else, that's the best. You can flirt without going overboard and, best of all, it'll be totally mutual flirting.