8 Reasons Why He's A Player 7 Reasons He's The Real Deal

Every single girl has been burned by a guy that she thought that was actually nice, but he turned out to be anything but. We can relate to that, can't we? Whenever we meet a new guy, we swear that this time, he's going to be different, and he's not going to hurt us like all those other boys before. And then, of course, the same thing happens once again. It's pretty crazy-making.

There are definitely good guys out there -- you just have to know what signs to look for. You have awesome powers of observation, you just have to use them. Once you figure it out, it's actually pretty easy to know who is worth dating and who you need to walk away from. It all comes down to a simple question: is he a player or the real deal? Read on to find out 8 reasons why he's a player and 7 reasons why he's the real deal.

15 Player: His Texting Habits Suck

A player is going to totally suck at texting you. You're going to wonder if he even knows how to use a phone. He ignores you most of the time and you don't always hear back from him. Yup, even if you agreed to go to the movies Saturday night, he still might ignore your text following up about the plan. Sounds awful… because it is.

His texting habits will be so weird that when he's bored, he won't stop messaging you. It's not going to be a fascinating conversation, of course. He's just going to keep telling you how bored he is and how he has absolutely nothing to do. You'll never be sure if he actually wants to talk or just wants a hook-up. You'll also never be sure if one day, he's just going to ghost you entirely, and that's really the worst.

14 Real Deal: He Has A Great Memory

The guy who is the real deal will be the total and complete opposite of a playboy… and it's going to be so awesome. The real deal guy is going to remember everything that you tell him. Yup, everything. Even the little things.

Whether you've told him that you used to love Dawson's Creek in high school or you always buy yourself candy on Halloween to feel like a kid again, this guy will keep it all up top in his brain. You're going to be pretty surprised the first time you realize that he actually listens to you and cares about what you have to say. If you've been dating playboys up until now, this is going to feel like a massive (and amazing) difference. Lucky you, right?

13 Player: He Never Says He Actually Likes You

All you want is to hear someone say that they care about you and want to keep dating you. That's why you go on so many bad dates and it's why your best friends keep telling you to keep going and hang out there because your perfect guy is out there. You figure it will all seem worth it when you meet a great guy and he looks right at you and says, "I really like you."

A player won't do that. You will never hear him say that he actually likes you. You might think that he does and that he's just shy or that he's not comfortable expressing his emotions, but… you don't need to make excuses for him. If a guy likes you, he likes you. Period. There's nothing else to add to the story.

12 Real Deal: He Does Nice Things For You

Real deal guys are total sweethearts. This guy is going to do tons of nice things for you. He's going to remember your favorite kind of wine and buy it for you. He's going to order your favorite take-out when you've had a horrible day and watch whatever you want on Netflix because he just cares about spending time with you and you could literally watch or do anything. He's not looking for anything in return and he doesn't have a weird ulterior motive. He just likes you.

If you've had really bad experiences in love and dating, then you might think that this is all a prank by the universe or something. It just won't feel real. But this guy is totally real and he's treating you exactly the way that you deserve to be treated. You should definitely enjoy it.

11 Player: He Is Vague About The Future

The thing about a player that you can't ever forget is that he just might be dating other girls. No matter how much it sucks to think that you're not the only one in his eyes, that's honestly what could be happening. Sure, you're devastated to learn that because you're totally into him. You're in it 100 percent. Unfortunately, that's not the way that he sees you.

You can be totally sure that a guy is a player if he never talks about the future in a legit way. Is he always super vague about what he's doing, whether you're asking about his plans Saturday night or if he's going on vacation next summer? That's definitely not a great sign. He wants to make sure you know that you're not in his future.

10 Real Deal: He Always Tells You How He Feels

A guy who is totally the real deal will always tell you how he feels. If he's having a good time on the first date, he's going to tell you. If he wants to see you again a second time, he's going to tell you. If he's having fun and wants to keep dating you, ditto.

You will never have to wonder if he likes you or not and you'll never think that it's all in your head. This isn't the kind of guy who is going to play you hot and cold. He's definitely not the kind of guy who is going to make you text your girlfriends, asking them what he means or how he feels about you. Doesn't that sound so refreshing?! You'll totally be happy with this guy.

9 Player: He Doesn't Get You As A Person

It's not crazy to want the guy that you're dating to think that you're the coolest person ever and to compliment you left and right. Okay, so compliments can get excessive and it's not like your self-esteem rests on what he thinks about you, but you're not wrong for wanting him to treat you really well. A playboy is going to make fun of you for liking certain things. If you ever mention that The Real Housewives is your guilty pleasure or that you still listen to the Spice Girls sometimes, he's going to laugh in your face.

A player won't get who you are as a person. He might seem confused when you tell stories from your past or talk about your life right now. Is that really the person that you see yourself with? Talk about a rhetorical question…

8 Real Deal: He Is Great At Making Plans

Your friends are easy to make plans with, right? Well, except for that one girl, but… you love her. You've been friends since forever and you totally get that she's kind of hard to make plans with sometimes. But other than her, you wouldn't stay friends with someone who never wanted to hang out with you and never made proper plans.

It's totally the same thing with dating. If you're dating a real deal guy, he's going to be great at making plans and it's going to be seriously easy. Whether you chat about the next time you're going to see each other in person or via text message, you're going to make plans quickly and simply and that will be that. You won't have to worry about whether or not he actually wants to see you or anything like that.

7 Player: He Never Commits To Plans

Players hate making plans. They think that the future is a stupid construct and that being organized is a waste of time. Just try making plans with a player. If you ask when he's free to see you next, he'll say something vague like "Maybe this weekend" or "I don't know, I'll tell you later." Yeah, that's pretty annoying.

You might think that once you two get more serious, he's going to treat you better and start making you a big part of his life. Sorry but if you're wishing for that, you're going to get super hurt. He's just not interested in that. If he wanted to see you, he would. Guys who have crushes on girls do everything within their power to make time to hang out with them. It's a thing.

6 Real Deal: He Makes You Feel Good About Yourself

The player will make you feel like you are just never good enough. You won't feel pretty enough or smart enough or interesting enough. You'll be insecure 24/7 and wonder if you're doing something wrong or if you should change in order for him to like you more.

You will never, ever feel that way with a real deal guy. Nope. This guy will make you feel super good about yourself. He'll make you feel like the prettiest, smartest, most interesting girl in the whole world. And even if it takes you a few times to believe him since you've only ever dated jerks before him, you will eventually believe that what he's saying is true, and it will be amazing. Now that you know how a real deal guy acts, why would you even think about staying with a player?!

5 Player: He Makes Everything Physical

You can totally tell if a guy is for real or not by how he acts when things get more physical and more intimate. Can you hang out with him and just talk? Or just watch a movie? Or go for dinner or drinks? If every time that you see him, he wants to hook up with you, then you know that he's a playboy.

Of course you want to hook up with the guy that you're into -- that kind of goes without saying -- but you don't only want to have a physical connection. You want to know that you care about each other and that you can make conversation and have a friendship as well. That's super key. A playboy just cares about your body and that's really all that there is to say on the subject.

4 Real Deal: He Holds Your Hand

Holding hands with someone is honestly a really sweet, romantic gesture. You see it in the movies, sure, but you might not actually experience this for yourself in real life. Not a lot of guys are into hand-holding these days. They would rather hook up with a bunch of girls.

A legit guy is going to hold your hand. And it's going to be amazing. You will seriously feel like you're starring in your own romantic comedy, which is a goal of yours, let's be honest here. With the right person, holding hands is the best thing ever. It doesn't even have to be a means to an end (aka a hook up). It can just be exactly what it is: sweet and innocent and a way to feel close to each other.

3 Player: He Doesn't Put His Phone Away Around You

Oh, iPhones. They can be so great (like when your crush texts you and asks you out and you jump for joy, even if you would never admit it) or so bad (like when he ghosts you). It's tough to put your phone away since you're pretty much on it all the time, but when you're on a date or spending time with the person that you're seeing, you really have to put it away.

Sure, there's nothing wrong with quickly texting back a friend if it's important or checking the time. But beyond that, your phone should stay in your bag. And that goes for the guy that you're seeing as well. Players won't put their phones away and will constantly text people or check social media around you. They just don't care enough to focus on you.

2 Real Deal: He Keeps Promises

Sure, this might seem like it goes without saying, and yet how many people have you dated who have made promises and then totally broken them? Yeah, exactly. It happens all the time. It doesn't matter how many times you tell yourself that you're not going to let a guy do this to you again. You can't always tell when someone is going to break a promise. After all, you want to believe them so badly.

A guy who is the real deal will definitely keep his promises to you. If he says he's going to call, he will. If he says you're seeing him Friday, you will. He would never dream of messing this up and going back on his word. You can trust this guy with your heart and soul, which is definitely not the case with a player.

1 Player: He Makes You Question Everything

The worst thing about playboys is that they will make you insecure about the relationship (or whatever it is, if it's not serious yet). You will never know if he's going to see you when he says that he will. These kinds of guys cancel all the time and you're never his priority.

You definitely want to feel secure when you're dating someone. Otherwise, why even date them? What would the point be? It's easy -- there is literally no reason to date them. A player will always keep you on your toes and not in a good, fun, exciting way. You're going to be in a constant state of confusion. You might mistake these feelings for love or lust because you figure that there are always some growing pains when you start seeing someone, but that's not what's really going on. You should never feel this way.