15 Surprising Warning Signs That Prove You Are Not Really In Love With Him

The mind is an interesting entity. It can be quite the tricky little thing and you may believe that a situation that you have gotten yourself into is one way when in fact it is the complete opposite. We all want so badly to find the person that we are meant to be with. in addition, anyone who knows love and who has been in love cannot argue that it is the best feeling in the entire universe. Wars have been started over love and people have died for it. it is the ultimate goal for any human being, I really could care less who says otherwise.

One of the most difficult feelings that we have as human beings is to differentiate between whether if it's love and lust. They are super similar, and I will get into detail about it later. It is all too common to truly think that you love someone when it is, in fact, nothing but lust. There are certain indicators that you are not truly in love, here are 15 of them. I apologize in advance if you end up disappointed - but it is better if you know as opposed to staying in the dark about it.

15 You Get Stressed Out When You Spend Time With Him

Love is supposed to be happy and care-free. You should feel nothing but butterflies and excitement when the two of you spend time together. It shouldn't be stressful, worrisome for you. You should have no feelings of anxiousness or sadness or dread seeing him. Although even the most satisfying of relationships have disagreements and arguments, it is definitely not on a daily basis and it definitely does not get toxic, either. Happy couples argue about someone being late to dinner or forgetting to take the trash out. If you start to feel like you would do anything but spend time with him, that is a huge red flag that you should really reconsider the relationship for what it is.

14 You Talk, But You Don't Communicate

Sometimes in relationships, you can talk to one another without really talking, if that makes any sense. Perfect examples of this is being simply that the two of you are just avoiding a tough topic or refusing to acknowledge one another's feelings. If you don't feel that you can openly discuss anything and everything, you are not in love with him. If you actually were, you would feel safe and comfortable with your significant other to bring things up even if they are uncomfortable and awkward. You know that they would never judge or criticize you for it. You know that they aren't going anywhere, and they are in it through the good times and the bad and that includes communicating effectively even when it gets difficult to do.

13 You Don't See A Future With Him

When you are head over heels for someone, there is not even a thought of the relationship coming to an end. You will want to cherish this feeling and this love for a long time to come. You will definitely envision a future with them, whatever that may look like for the two of you. There will be trips planned a year in advance and plans to move in with one another. If you don't see this relationship lasting, it is a huge indicator that you are not as into them as you think you are. This is probably a case of love, not lust. Sorry to break it to you. Plus, why would you want to be with someone that you don't see as long-term? What is the actual point of that?

12 You Easily Annoy Each Other

This point perfectly coincides with my first one. If you feel consistent endless negative feelings when you are around him, you should probably think about what you are doing with him in the first place. This can go both ways: if he gets equally and as uncomfortable the two of you are definitely headed for some trouble in the relationship: if you aren't in it already. He should be your favorite person to want to be around above anyone else. That is not to say there will be some annoyance in any relationship. Sometimes you need space if there has been none or they do something that irritates you. It is the amount of how much he is actually annoying you matters - be on the lookout for that.

11 You Don't Say “I Love You” To Him, And When You Do It Feels Forced

When you are in love with a man you can't say those three little words enough. Not only will you show it, you will definitely want to express it to him as much as you possibly can. You simply cannot help yourself. You want the whole world to know, especially him in particular. On the contrary, when you are not actually in love there won't be any desire to express it. and if you do say it, it won't feel genuine or true. It will feel like a chore - just something that you feel as if you're supposed to say. You will know the difference; the heart and your intuition never lie. Make sure to listen to both at all times.

10 You Don't Really Care What He is Doing Or Who He Is With

Let us be honest here: we can be a little obsessive when we love someone especially as women. We get attached more easily than men and we fall very hard. We will want to know where our boyfriend is or what they're doing and wish that you were with them right by their side. Some will even go as far as to track their boyfriends on “Find my Friends.” I have seen it done before, although that is quite extreme in my opinion. The point I am trying to make is you are invested in his whereabouts when you are truly in love. If you find yourself not really caring what he's up to, that's a pretty tell-tale sign that you aren't as into him as you truly believe to be.

9 The Date Nights Are Gone

What isn't better than a date night with your man? You can get dressed up, be as girly as you want and show him off to the world and strut your stuff as well! It is a pretty great feeling when you get ready for two hours and he notices and compliments you for it. In healthy relationships these kinds of nights are always a priority. You wouldn't miss it for the world. If you don't get excited or have a desire to look good for him, you should probably contemplate why. Of course, we all get a bit lazier when we are in a long-term relationship, there is no question about that. But the two of you will realize how crucial date nights really are and you make sure to make time for it.

8 You Make No Effort With His Friends Or Family

It is a known fact that when you love someone you will go to great strides to impress their loved ones. The last time I was truly in love with a man and his mom's birthday came around I spent an hour at Bath and Body Works making her a custom gift basket with corresponding scents. That may be a little extra, but you get the point. I wanted to go into that party and be the thoughtful girl that put in a lot of effort to convince his mom that I was worthy of her son. A woman who isn't really in love doesn't go above and beyond for the people that her man surrounds herself. You will want them to love you as much as you love him.

7 All Affection Is Gone

There is no hand-holding. Every time he tries you aren't really down for it. The thought of him touching you is nothing but irritating to you. I am sure you can think back to a time that you were actually in love: you probably couldn't keep your hands off of him! We all know that couple: the ones that are making intense eye contact in the coffee shop and paying attention to no one else. Those are the couples that are truly happy with one another. Nothing else matters, they feel like they can take on the world together and they don't see or notice anyone around them. There is probably someone nauseating PDA too, for us bitter single people anyway.

6 Conversely, It's Purely Physical With Him

Love is a balance between a physical and emotional connection between two people. I stated this before but there is also free-flowing conversation. Lust is a completely different animal and it often gets confused with love. A major indicator between the two is time. It takes time to get to know and to fall in love. If it is instant between the two of you it is probably lust. That is not to say that it won't eventually turn into love. In fact, lust is the first stage of love. But it progresses as time goes on. You start to care about the other's well-being and there doesn't have to be a physical component all of the time. Lust is PURELY physical and nothing else.

5 There Is Toxic Fighting

A relationship should never get to a level of toxicity. Toxic fights are abuse and two people who are in love would never want to abuse the other. A toxic fight involves a lot of name-calling and harsh criticism between the two of you. It is the type of argument that brings up past mistakes and the words exchanged are just to hurt the other. This is a situation that you should never continue to allow in your life. Love isn't toxic, it is fulfilling and pure. Being in love makes you want to be a better person. Your man will motivate you to get there, not tear you down. And if you are doing that to him in return, you are definitely not in love. Remember that.

4 He Isn't Really On Your Mind

Daydreaming about your man when you are in love is a daily occurrence. You find yourself spacing out at work remembering that adorable comment he made in the morning or the thoughtful act of kindness he did for you. You will swoon over how good he looked in a suit and tie on his way to work and you can't wait to go home to him and all of his glory. You miss him the minute the two of you separate and go about your days individually. If none of this is happening, then girlfriend you aren't in love. Love makes you feel like a middle school girl with a crush who wants to draw his name all over your notes during that important business meeting.

3 You Don't Want To Commit To Him

It is a no-brainer that there is a desire from both parties for commitment when there is true love. There is no excuse and no number of obstacles or distance will make the difference. These challenges won't matter as long as you have him and the two of you take them on together. Especially as women, we tend to gravitate more towards commitment. It makes us feel safe and secure and it makes us feel like we can actually fall with no worries. If there is no security it feels like there is no safety net and it turns this makes it extremely difficult to give ourselves completely. If you find yourself with absolutely no desire to commit to him, you are definitely not in love!

2 You Start To Look Elsewhere

He suddenly, or has never been, the only guy on your mind. You catch yourself staring at that hot man at the coffee shop for a very long, inappropriate amount of time and you feel guilty about it. You know that it what you are doing is wrong and you will start to contemplate why this wandering eye of yours is actually occurring. It is indeed human nature to stare at an attractive individual but when you aren't interested you tend to quickly look away and move on with your day. It is even possible that you start to fantasize about other people as well. A woman in love is laser-focused on their man and it feels as if no other man compares. You don't want anyone else you are completely satisfied.

1 Before You Realize It, You're Cheating

Last but not least, if you are stepping out on him you are most definitely not in love despite whatever excuse you tell yourself. Love is honest, it is pure, and no one will be sneaking around or being shady. Cheating is the by far the biggest indicator that not only are you not in love, but you don't really care about the other people's feelings or thoughts. I have absolutely no sympathy for cheaters. The circumstances never matter it will never be okay. it is quite cowardly to stay in a relationship when you are clearly unhappy and unsatisfied, it isn't fair for anyone involved, including the man you are cheating on him with! If this is what you have become or what you have always been I would recommend you walk away as soon as possible.