15 Signs He's Definitely Giving Up On You

We don't always see the end coming. And when it happens we are always taken a back. It's difficult to see someone fall out of love with you. It hurts even more to feel their love fade away, their affection goes cold and their attention becomes non-existent. Knowing that the person you are crazy about, the one your heart beats for, the one your mind won't stop wandering to is slowly loving you less each day breaks your heart into a million pieces. It takes guys time to give-up on you. They don't wake-up one day and decide that they don't want to be with you or that you are no longer the person for them. They bottle it up, they hide it and they avoid talking about it with you until that one day comes when they can't pretend anymore. They can't pretend that you are their number one when you clearly aren't. So, here are some signs that your man is giving-up on you and your relationship.

15 He's Emotionally Unavailable

Slowly but surely, he's emotionally withdrawing from you. He doesn't ask you for your opinion and when you say it, he doesn't give it any importance. You're not intimate like you used to be and it feels like he's not enjoying it, that he's only doing it to get it out of his system instead of connecting to you and strengthening your relationship. He's keeping you at an arm's length, he's leaving you in the cold, he's pushing you away. He doesn't say 'I love you' anymore and when you say it to him, he doesn't say me too. He doesn't talk to you about his feelings about you nor about your relationship. He either bottles it up inside or he just brushes it off, but he never addresses it with you or express how it really feels. And he doesn't go out of his way to show you how much he cares and loves you like he used to.

14 He Doesn't Argue With You Anymore

He doesn't spend hours talking to you about the same thing. In fact, talking to him about things is unproductive, it leads to nowhere and he doesn't try to find a solution. He listens to all that you have to say, he nods and then he continues doing what he was doing before the whole conversation started. He isn't passionate about working it out. He doesn't feel bad about going to sleep knowing that there's something in the air between you, he doesn't mind that you're upset or that you're hurt, doesn't worry about what's going to happen. He doesn't have deep conversations with you about things that you differ on or that matter for the both of you like religion, kids or money. He gives you the impression that addressing things like healthy couples do gives him a headache. He makes you feel that you are being demanding, pushy or desperate because you want to talk about it instead of just pretending that it doesn't matter.

13 He Stopped Putting Effort

He doesn't go out of his way to show you that he's crazy about you. He doesn't do the little things that he always have done for you. Like making you coffee in the morning because he doesn't want you to be late for work. Or, like getting you ice cream and chocolate when you're feeling discouraged about something that happened to you that week. He doesn't show initiative that he notices the little stuff or that he actually cares about it. He doesn't surprise you or leave you a random note saying that you are beautiful or that you can conquer the world. In other words, he stops showing you that he supports you, that he believes in you, that he's your biggest fan. He stops becoming better for you and for your relationship. He stops doing things just to make your life a little easier, just to see you smile, just to make you happy.

12 He Criticizes You

He points out the things he doesn't like about you non-stop. He doesn't have a conversation with you about where he's coming from. Instead, he comes off as judgmental and unloving. You feel like he isn't attracted to you anymore. You feel like he isn't as interested in you that you're interested in him. You feel like you accept him more than he accepts you. Like you don't mind his quirks and flaws because they are what attracted you to him in first place, but you feel that he sees your imperfections as something negative or something broken that needs fixing. He questions your decisions and how you handle situations. He gives you an impression as if you have disappointed him or that he's been expecting more from you. He makes you feel like nothing you do is good enough and that you need to work hard to meet his expectations.

11 He Forgets Things

He becomes forgetful of things that are important. He forgets about the date you had planned for the both of you at the end of the month. He forgets about your anniversary. He forgets that it was your mother's birthday. He forgets about the issue you had at work. He forgets about the important meeting you had or project that is coming-up. He forgets that your best friend is coming for a visit. He forgets about the things you asked him to do. Like to pick-up your clothes from the dry cleaner or to buy milk on his way back from work. He forgets that how excited you have been for your favorite tv show to air. He stops noticing that you cut your hair, lost some weight or changed your style. He almost forgets what kind of wine you like, he almost forgets which your favorite store is, and he almost forgets the places you said you want to visit one day.

10 You Feel Unloved

You feel unloved in your most loveable moments. You feel neglected. You feel like he's with you out of routine not desire. You feel like he wants you to be someone else, that he's trying to fit you into his picture perfect. He doesn't appreciate what makes you special, what makes you, you. He doesn't seem to realize how lucky he is to have you by his side, to have you in his love, to be loved by someone like you. He doesn't love you in the way you need to be loved. He doesn't give you the love that drew you to him, the love that made you choose him out of everyone else. He doesn't give you the love you know you deserve and he doesn't love you the way you know he can. It almost feels like it's a choice that he's making rather than just a feeling you've been experiencing lately.

9 He Doesn't Open-Up To You

He stops talking to you about how his day was. He doesn't come to you with his problems anymore. His friends and family seem to know more about what he's going through more than you do and so you feel left out. He doesn't tell you about what has been bothering him lately. He doesn't share with you about the family issues that's been a big deal and is affecting their family dynamic. He doesn't tell you that he's worried about his parents' health and he thinks about how he can provide for them almost everyday. He doesn't tell you about what he's scared of in life at the moment. He doesn't speak about how stressed or how excited he is about the changes that have been happening in his life. You feel like you lost touch with what he's been up to. Sometimes, you can't help but feel like you can't recognize him anymore because he's changed so much and you barely noticed it.

8 He Doesn't Voice His Opinion

He doesn't tell you what he actually thinks about things anymore. When you ask him about the dress you're wearing and if it's appropriate for that work event, his reply if he replies would be it's okay. He doesn't tell you that he thinks you're making a mistake about not going after your dream and that you chose security over your passion. He doesn't share what he feels about what's happening in the world right now. He doesn't tell you about how he's second guessing his personal beliefs and view on life. He doesn't tell you what he really thinks of your friend's behavior. He doesn't tell you what he thinks of how your boss has been treating you. He doesn't advise you to get physically active, go to a spa, go on a girls' night out or meet-up with your parents over the weekend. He doesn't tell you that he thinks that you have been losing your spark. He doesn't tell you that he's the reason either.

7 He Stays Outside A Lot

He barely spends time with you. He would rather be buried with loads and loads of work than spend time with you. He goes out with his friends most of the time. He stays out on the weekend doing his thing. He goes to the gym or plays sports more than usual. If he goes to school, he studies most of the time and has no room to spend time with you. He gives you the impression that he has better things to do than be available for just you, to spend quality time and to just be himself like the old times. He always seems like he has somewhere else to go to. He starts sleeping outside if you're living together. You don't get to see him like you used to and when you do, it's brief and cold. He told you that he doesn't like to stay home anymore and that he prefers being out instead.

6 You're Frustrated All The Time

You are frustrated about the situation. You're sexually frustrated because you are not getting your needs met and if you do, it's not satisfying, it's not pleasurable, it's not meaningful. You're emotionally frustrated because he's not loving you. He doesn't kiss you passionately, he doesn't cuddle with you or just hug you for no reason. He isn't focal either. He doesn't tell you that he missed you so much when you went away for a couple of days. He doesn't tell you how good you smell, how good you look, how good it is to have you around and to just be with you in general. He doesn't make you feel like he wants you in his life, that he needs you. You feel stressed all the time. You're stressed about the situation, you're stressed about the future and where your relationship is heading. You're losing sleep about it and you're not eating well. You're not taking care of yourself.

5 You Feel Unsafe

You feel like he doesn't want you. You feel like he doesn't need you. You feel like you're replaceable and that he will leave you in any given moment. You feel like he's going to hurt you, that he's going to abandon you, that he's going to break your heart. You feel insecure and you begin to doubt your connection and the love you share. You start questioning his character and you become less sure about is commitment and honesty. You feel that you cannot trust him anymore. Your body is subconsciously rejecting him not because you don't love him or want him, it's because your body senses the tension. You feel like you would it be better for your mental health to be alone than be with him because at least, then, you would know where you stand. The situation is driving you crazy and you feel like you're running in circles.

4 He Asked For Space

He told you that he wants some time for himself. He's expressed that he needs to figure things out on his own. He said that he doesn't know where he stands with you. He told you that he's not sure if he wants to be in a relationship, engaged or married anymore. He said that he needs to find what it is he really wants in life and what kind of man he really is. He told you that it wasn't something you did or said, he told you that it wasn't something that you didn't say or do either. He explained that he's going through a crisis about purpose and what kind of impact he's leaving in the world. He told you that it wasn't you who he was giving-up on. He told you that he needs to believe in himself again. He told you that he needs to focus on himself, to take care of himself and to love himself truly. So that he can do the same for someone else.

3 He's Not Present With You

When he's with you, his body is there but nothing else is. He's on his phone most of the time. He plays video games and watches tv. You cook by yourself and you eat alone. His mind is somewhere else. When you spend time together, you're not enjoying the moment because you're thinking about what he's thinking about. You don't talk anymore. When he smiles, his smile is broken. His hugs feel cold, his touch feels empty. You look him in the eye and you can tell he's going through hell, but you feel so distant and that you have to tear his walls down to just get him to talk to you about it. And it feels like his presence is decreasing. He doesn't shine anymore. He doesn't bring that positivity like he used to. His personality is disappearing too. You feel like you are watching him vanish before your eyes. You feel like you're losing him, piece by piece. And sadly, you become not present with him, too.

2 He Disregards Your Feelings

He doesn't take your feelings seriously. He thinks that you over-react about everything and that all you need is his attention 24/7. He doesn't do anything when you tell him that you are tired and not feeling okay. He doesn't go out of his way to make you feel better, he just doesn't bother at all. He sees that you are upset, but he doesn't ask you what's wrong, he just carries on with his day and what he was doing like it doesn't matter, like you don't matter. Your feelings are something he almost forgets that it exists. It's not that he's not a good guy or anything, it's that he has gotten so used to not care at this point that he doesn't know it yet. He does things without considering how it will affect you. It's almost like his decisions, his actions and his silence have no consequences.

1 He's Becoming A Workaholic

He prioritizes his work over spending time with you. He's so busy at work that he doesn't even make time to contact you or send you a quick text to let you know that you're on his mind. He chooses to work late than go with you to that special event with your friends and family. He stays late at work on Fridays instead of coming home to sit with you and just hang out. He becomes too focused on his career goals that he forgets to direct his attention on what you share and your future together. He starts caring about himself more than he cares about both of you. He begins to become more self-centered and more self-driven instead of being a team member, a partner. He becomes hungry for improving his status at work and disregards his status with you. His mission becomes about what he's missing rather than what he has right in-front of him.