15 Manipulative Ways To Get Him To Obsess Over You

Who doesn't want a guy obsessed with them? In a non-creepy manner, of course. Stalkers are not fun. It is awesome if the feelings are mutual and you feel the exact same way about him! There is nothing like being worshipped and being truly loved by a man who you adore. It is a pretty great feeling to see someone appreciate you for exactly what you are - a damn goddess! And no doubt, you are one.

Every woman is special in their own way no matter your background, dress size, or status in life (I'm corny, whatever.) There are the simplest things that you normally wouldn't even think of to do and manipulative in their own way and anyone can pull it off. Here are 15 ways to get him to beg for your presence in your life, I promise you won't be disappointed with the results:

15 Text him back when you ACTUALLY can

No doubt there are little tricks on here to help you snag the guy that you want - but this is actually not even a tactic! It is just you are living your life but I guarantee that he will be obsessed with you. While I understand that when you are into someone you want to talk to them all of the time, but I promise you that he will pine after you when you do this - so text him back when you actually have a minute, do not stop what you are doing just to text him. You're very busy and very important as far as he knows. This is especially important if you two are just starting to date - no man likes a woman who drops everything for him. While sacrifices are a guaranteed part of a relationship, it isn't in the early stages of dating! Maintain your own, girl.

14 Be educated on the things that matter

Please for the love of god, do not play dumb with a guy. They will not only lose respect for you, but they will definitely not take your relationship to the next level. Who wants an ignorant woman who is consumed by the wrong things? In my opinion, I have found that men love an educated woman. That doesn't mean that you have to graduate magna cum laude from Harvard, it just means being aware. Staying woke. Keeping up to date on current events. Bring some value to a conversation, not just discuss how obsessed with dogs and avocado toast you are (however, I am guilty of that.) Become interested in politics, the economy, or the stock market. At the end of the day that is the kind of partner that a man looks for in a woman. Someone who has worldly views and bring up legitimate talking points at the dinner table. And it'll benefit your life as well!

13 Make his friends adore you

I can't stress enough how important it is for his guy friends to love you. If the bros love you, you are in - for life. So, make it a point to not only be corgial but to get to know all of them on a deeper level. ask them about themselves too! Become their buddy! They will so appreciate it and they will be so jealous that your man gets to date you and not them - which will make your man want you even more. Men are competitive AF - over the dumbest things no less. And they are territorial when it comes to women that they love or are into. Guys want what other guys want - no doubt about. I have learned this the hard way - once my exes friends started to dislike me it was the downfall of our relationship. So, bro out with them, play some Mario kart or Call of Duty, drink some beers and make nice with his buddies. He would do the same for you - if he is a good guy, of course.

12 Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself

Another vital part to have a guy obsess over you - you have to be obsessed with yourself. I have been recently doing the whole ~self-love~ tactic and I have never had more guys text or call me. Do you want to know why? Because it makes absolutely no difference in my life what the f they do! Does not matter to me if they like me, because I like me! doesn't matter if they screw me over - I will just never speak to them again. WHY? Because I like MYSELF enough to respect myself enough to not want anything to do with a man and I have MYSELF to pick me up when I am down (and my girls and wine, of course, very important.) Yes, rejection hurts still at first… but you know what? I quickly shake it off because I remind myself of these things. I remind myself that I have love in my life already - the love I have for myself. I HAVE ME, I don't need anyone. Do I sound annoying? Good. I want you to drill these ideas into your head. Practice it, it works. And not only does it help with men, it helps in all aspects of your life.

11 Give as much as you get

A relationship is a two-way street, and that means you should give as much as you get. In other words, do not overextend yourself for someone who wouldn't do the same. He doesn't want to meet you out with your friends when you meet up with his all of the time? Cool, stop doing that. He doesn't want to pay for dinner, EVER? Cool, don't buy him Christmas presents this year. I am a very firm believer of this - I would much rather be single than go above and beyond for someone who can't even be bothered to take me out anywhere nice and his idea of a date is pizza and a movie at his. No man likes a woman who does everything for him - although he may love the fact that you cook and do his laundry and are at his beck and call when he doesn't even help you take out the trash - he will soon get tired of you.

10 Be comfortable in your skin

I am such a girly-girl and I love makeup and Sephora more than life itself. I am a proud VIB rogue member. But I have absolutely no problem going make up free with a man. I really don't care (because I love myself… ok I'll stop) Seriously though if you are okay with having a naked face, he will be too. And if he doesn't like you because you had a break out or have bags under your eyes, who needs someone like that anyway? It's not like he's not going to be bald and fat one day… it's inevitable. And at the end of the day, men do not have the best attention to detail in the world. I used to have the worst acne ever and it made absolutely no difference in my dating life, even if they saw me with no makeup. I am not saying to let yourself go, dress up all you want! But don't be afraid to calm down on the concealer and highlighter for the day. Unless that is totally your thing, then go for it - if you're doing it FOR YOURSELF.

9 Pick your battles, carefully.

Trust me when you bitch at a man 24/7, they will tune you out. In one ear and out the other. If you nag and nag and then do absolutely nothing to show that you mean it, he will completely ignore you. He will soon mentally teleport to the football game that is on or start to day dream about what he wants for lunch. Or make the face above. If you think he is going to seriously anymore, you have another thing coming. On top of that, there is no better way to turn a man off. Who really wants to live with a second mother? Gross. Stop telling him to brush his teeth or not to stay out too late. So many of us are guilty of this. he is an adult, not your little minion. Men respond to actions, not words anyway, which leads me to my next point:

8 Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Stick to your convictions and values. Draw lines in the sand. If a man disrespects you, walk away. AND really walk away. Don't walk away for a day, have a night out with your friends and call him at 2 am. You are literally saying to him: treat me like a doormat, it's okay. I'll drink some tequila, hit you up and then soon afterwards forgive you and you can go right back to what you were doing. Nope, absolutely not. If you are saying you are ending things, then end it. and don't look back. If it is a first-time offense, forgive him. I'm all about the second chances. What I am not about and you shouldn't be either is the third, fourth and fifth chance. I'm sorry, how many times does he have to show you his true self before you finally realize it? You can fantasize and dream all you want about what a man he ~could~ be if he just did this or that, if he just called you when he says he will or if he will stop cheating THIS TIME REALLY. That is so fake news I can't even begin to tell you. You have to accept someone for who they are in totality, you can't pick and choose wht characteristics you like and do not like.

7 Encourage guy nights, don't take him away from them.

There is nothing sexier to a man than a woman who lets him maintain some dignity. You are already probably having him run errands for you and pick up tampons at CVS, let him let loose once in a while, will you? If you trust him and he has done nothing to break that trust, you have absolutely 0 excuse to not let him out with his friends. How insecure do you look when you do that? If he spends the majority of his free time with you, he deserves a break. He deserves to go to a dive bar with his buddies and shoot some pool. We can all be a little much sometimes. However, it is a completely different story if said man completely ignores your needs and finds any excuse to go out, that is when you have to whip out that other little trick and draw a red line.

6 Bond with his pet

Whether he has a dog, cat, or even a damn fish, make sure you bond with the pet as much as you can. I'm not sure how you bond with a fish, but make it happen. Buy it some fish food. Animal people adore their animals and it will make him swoon if you try to care about his pet. Even if you're not a dog person, suck it up and deal with the slobbery kisses (not sure how anyone COULDN'T be a dog person, but to each their own.) once I dated a guy with a lizard which surprisingly was not the weirdest thing about him. I absolutely detest reptiles, anything with scales really. But I tried to pretend to not cringe every time he brought him out of his little house. Don't you appreciate it when your animal likes your significant other? Apply that same logic to a dude.

5 Be seductive, but in a not-so-I'm desperate way

Subtle is key here. Nobody likes a desperate Debby, but no one also likes a wet blanket either. How do you achieve this? It is all about the body language, men are so visual it's disgusting. They are so easy to seduce, really. Bite your lip when you talk to him - DISCREETLY. Don't bite your entire lower lip with all of your top teeth. That will just look very strange. Make intense eye contact. Keep his gaze. Play with his hair. These all seem simple, but I can promise he will pine after you like you have never seen. If you two are out, be prepared to leave very soon. Men can't resist moves like this and if you keep it going throughout the relationship it is a very good sign that he will stick around. When the art of seduction is lost in a courtship it becomes boring and mundane pretty quickly and who wants that?

4 Show just the RIGHT amount of skin

It's not cute to show as much skin as humanely possible for just a little bit of attention. Even if you have a killer body, most likely your man will not want everyone to see what he sees. The rule is usually showing one part of your body at a time - if you are showing legs, show less of your upper body. Unfortunately, we still live in a world that a guy may look at you differently if you dress a certain way, but that is certainly changing! Regardless of that, a man also will want more if you only show a bit. Don't give him the entire cake right away, just a little piece! He doesn't deserve all of you at once. Make him work for it! Men love earning something as opposed to it just being handed to them. It makes your value sky rocket.

3 Be there for him when it counts

When you show that you are not only reliable but you will be there when he is down, he will be sure to never want to leave you. It is very appealing when a woman knows how to comfort when in stressful situations. You would expect the same from your man, right? If you continue to show that you are going to stick around through the hard times, he will soon become obsessed with you and your presence. He will need it to get through whatever life throws at him. This is one of the most important things you can do, if you show that you are just there for the good times he will see you as fake and fleeting. Make sure you are the chick that is down for the ups and downs. He will be eternally grateful for you and if he isn't - than screw him anyway!

2 Calm and collected girl gets the guy

I'm sorry but I am notorious for a good mood swing and temper tantrum and we are all guilty of that! but no one, and I mean NO ONE, likes a drama queen. There is no need to get all flustered because he forgot to pick up something from the store. At the end of the day, is it that big of a deal? Is it worth a fight? Remember I told you that if you constantly nag at your man you might as well break up with him first before he does it. And on top of that, it is a true sign of immaturity to constantly freak out. It means, really, that you have some serious soul searching to do and some growing up to do as well. A relationship comes with ups and downs, with compromise and with understanding. The perfect man doesn't exist. As long as he loves and cares for you, does anything else really matter?

1 Be kind.

Most importantly, be a good person. And I don't mean to just him - to everyone. I am not saying to not defend yourself and stick to your convictions where it matters, but yelling at the wait staff for your food being late or treating your friends like sh*t is not a good look. The entitled brat princess? Not a good look. In the words of Kendrick Lamar, “be humble. Sit down.” Practice kindness and love every day and you will get nothing but that in return, including from your man. Those two traits are irresistible to not only men, but to people in general. Kindness attracts all walks of life and on top of that it is phenomenal karma! Try to do one act of kindness a day. It doesn't even have to be a grand gesture. Buy a homeless person lunch. Help an old lady with her groceries (yes, seriously.)